Hi, as a male and someone who is interested in linguistics, I’ve found that “himbo” is actually completely qualitatively different from “bimbo,” and shouldn’t be considered an insult at all.
“Bimbo” was typically solely used as a derogatory term. It meant someone who was entitled, lazy, overly concerned about their looks, and frustratingly dumb. Someone whose only redeeming quality was their appearance, implying that their sole worth as a human being was as a sex object. This was its original use, its current use, and only use.
Himbo, on the other hand, has weirdly positive connotations. From what I’ve seen, the stereotypical “himbo” is strong, conventionally attractive, and dumb, sure, but it’s all spun in a positive light. A himbo is typically very compassionate, highly optimistic, entertaining, and often extremely capable (in areas that don’t require a lot of brainpower). Himbos typically also are very aware that they aren’t the sharpest knife in the drawer, and graciously step aside to let other, smarter people take charge when they need to. And when they do screw up out of stupidity, it’s usually in a charming, endearingly silly way instead of frustrating. Basically, a himbo is a romantic fantasy instead of a demeaning insult: a strong, capable, and inherently non-toxically masculine individual who just so happens to be dumb as a rock. Which does give their potential romantic partner a bit of an edge in some areas, sure, but not in a way that degrades their humanity.
And what’s more, a “himbo” causing problems is meant to be relatable, not demeaning. Everyone screws up, but the himbo screws up often, and in ways that are often unpredictable and absurd. Something that it takes an extra amount of thinking just to imagine how they could possibly have come to that conclusion. But they are always forgiven for these mistakes, since there usually is some logic behind their actions, even if it is ridiculous. And they always forgive themselves too, which is strangely empowering. In an era defined by anxiety and self-doubt, it’s comforting to think that no matter how dumb your mistakes may be, they can always be forgiven if your heart’s in the right place, and that it’s okay to relax and not worry about unforeseeable consequences that are beyond your knowledge or control. It’s okay to be true to who you are, even if who you are only has two braincells that are usually taking an extended lunch break.
tl;dr “himbo” is okay while “bimbo” is not because “bimbo” is an inherently dehumanizing insult and “himbo” has actually evolved into meaning a positive masculine role model, but dumb
This has been my himbo manifesto, thank you for reading
this was just supposed to be a riff on some post of a straight woman in a plaid shirt i saw but now i have opened it up to people unironically saying that it’s okay to call men dumb as bricks and attractive and not women bc “its okay when we do it”
some of yall need to never look at men again until you can acknowledge that they’re people too.
Yikes, this happened to me last night after a writing sprint. My hand felt kinda floppy and a bit numb (I could still feel things, but my hand didn’t really… focus on the textures? If that makes sense), and my elbow-to-wrist area was kinda sore. This all settled in about half an hour after I’d stopped writing for the night.
It disturbed me enough that I struggled to get to sleep, and my hand still feels a bit weak this morning.
Boosting this as a reminder/warning to other folks! I obviously need to look into some hand exercises to ease this off before I have a big problem on my hands look this is a serious topic but lemme joke so I don’t freak out okay
Reminder that sharp stabbing pains, burning, tingling, or numbness in your hands during or after a writing session isn’t normal, and you should stop immediately to prevent serious damage.
I’m also a musician, and I panicked when my hands started doing all of the above a couple summers ago. Fortunately I addressed the issue in time, and with the combination of hand stretches/exercises and braces like the one pictured above, I’ve regained and retained full use of my hands when playing flute and piano.
HOWEVER
I always wear braces to type these days, as my hands can’t take more than 30 mins before they start to bother me if I don’t, and I highly reccomend y'all to take good care of yourselves with nano on the way.
Go see your doctor if you have to, get some good braces (lots of them have removable metal pieces that make wearing them a lot more comfortable), and DO NOT push through the pain just to reach a word count.
No novel is worth your hands.
When my writing output rose for this blog a few months ago, I started to get a pretty bad burning pain in my hands, wrists, and forearms.
After a month of pain, I got fed up, bought two $14 braces, started wearing them to sleep, and within a week my hands were better. The braces are great to wear when sleeping because for your wrists to heal, they need to be locked in a relaxed, neutral position, which just doesn’t happen when you’re sleeping without braces. Obviously, wearing them while you type is also helpful, but at least for me, it’s been enough to wear them mostly just at night.
As @etjwrites and @h-brook-writes have said, remember to take care of yourself! Especially since the solution can be pretty cheap.
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OH. Okay. My hand and wrist go numb and feel “cold” lately when i hand write or keyboard type for long periods of time. I thought it was my posture and have been ignoring it.
hey guys, put some serious thought towards dictating your first drafts if you can. the current tech on google docs for speech-to-text (and other services) is actually really decent and your first draft is going to need editing anyway!!! try it out a few times. it’ll feel awkward and freewrite-y at first; that’s ok. we’re talking about first drafts.
Thank you, I really would prefer dictation for a number of reasons and was wondering how to do it!
@etjwrites no worries, my mom is currently dealing with carpal tunnel issues and has been ordering braces and heating pads for cheap online. I’ll just borrow one of hers now. The numbness has been preventing me from writing because I do stop as soon as it gets too uncomfortable to write.
My favorite dictation software is Speechnotes, because it doesn’t time out and stop recording without telling it to, and I sometimes blank for a while figuring out what I want to say. It’s fully online and free, which is also nice.
Yikes, this happened to me last night after a writing sprint. My hand felt kinda floppy and a bit numb (I could still feel things, but my hand didn’t really… focus on the textures? If that makes sense), and my elbow-to-wrist area was kinda sore. This all settled in about half an hour after I’d stopped writing for the night.
It disturbed me enough that I struggled to get to sleep, and my hand still feels a bit weak this morning.
Boosting this as a reminder/warning to other folks! I obviously need to look into some hand exercises to ease this off before I have a big problem on my hands look this is a serious topic but lemme joke so I don’t freak out okay
Reminder that sharp stabbing pains, burning, tingling, or numbness in your hands during or after a writing session isn’t normal, and you should stop immediately to prevent serious damage.
I’m also a musician, and I panicked when my hands started doing all of the above a couple summers ago. Fortunately I addressed the issue in time, and with the combination of hand stretches/exercises and braces like the one pictured above, I’ve regained and retained full use of my hands when playing flute and piano.
HOWEVER
I always wear braces to type these days, as my hands can’t take more than 30 mins before they start to bother me if I don’t, and I highly reccomend y'all to take good care of yourselves with nano on the way.
Go see your doctor if you have to, get some good braces (lots of them have removable metal pieces that make wearing them a lot more comfortable), and DO NOT push through the pain just to reach a word count.
No novel is worth your hands.
When my writing output rose for this blog a few months ago, I started to get a pretty bad burning pain in my hands, wrists, and forearms.
After a month of pain, I got fed up, bought two $14 braces, started wearing them to sleep, and within a week my hands were better. The braces are great to wear when sleeping because for your wrists to heal, they need to be locked in a relaxed, neutral position, which just doesn’t happen when you’re sleeping without braces. Obviously, wearing them while you type is also helpful, but at least for me, it’s been enough to wear them mostly just at night.
As @etjwrites and @h-brook-writes have said, remember to take care of yourself! Especially since the solution can be pretty cheap.
❤️❤️❤️
OH. Okay. My hand and wrist go numb and feel “cold” lately when i hand write or keyboard type for long periods of time. I thought it was my posture and have been ignoring it.
hey guys, put some serious thought towards dictating your first drafts if you can. the current tech on google docs for speech-to-text (and other services) is actually really decent and your first draft is going to need editing anyway!!! try it out a few times. it’ll feel awkward and freewrite-y at first; that’s ok. we’re talking about first drafts.
In the midst of this discussion on the current “no spoilers” climate, I keep remembering what happened when the Gravity Falls fandom predicted the existence and importance of Ford’s character. You know what Alex Hirsch and the show’s creative team did? They bumped Ford’s introduction up by a few episodes (mid-S2 as opposed to the planned season finale), but what they didn’t do was trash his entire character and thereby waste 30 episodes of buildup.
And when Ford walked on screen for the first time and revealed who he was, I remember the fandom losing our minds. Because we had picked up on the foreshadowing! All our theories had been proven right! And now we were getting the catharsis of payoff. Anyone who was there can testify that Alex Hirsch did troll us with fake spoilers, but he wasn’t upset whenever we put together the clues he was leaving for us. In fact, he actively encouraged it! And that’s what I don’t get about writers like the Russos and D&D - if you’re going to punish your fans for interacting with your work, why are you in the business of creating?
if you’re going to punish your fans for interacting with your work, why are you in the business of creating?
My intention isn’t to BOSS people around. But people who don’t create on tumblr really have to understand that if creators stop posting here, you won’t have anything else to like but maybe memes. If you want content to circle around to your dashboard… you have to pay it forward and reblog. That is why this website is dying. The Ban is not the only reason.
And its like…. people dont even fucking realize how special tumblr is
Tumblr doesn’t have verified checkmarks. Tumblr doesn’t have an algorithm to you show ❝The Best Stuff❞. Tumblr doesn’t display how many followers you have. Tumblr isn’t obsessed with subscriptions.
Tumblr is an even playing field compared to websites like Twitter, Instagram, and Youtube. Which means its up to us, the users, to spread the word of people we enjoy– the way the internet should be.
I’m not asking you to reblog shit you don’t like. I’m not asking you to reblog everything out of pity. But when you see a post you genuinely like, reblog it.
An elitist thought flittered through my mind a second ago as it occurred to me that some people might be all “no, not everyone should write fanfic omg.” And I realized I’ve never considered that nor felt that way about fanfic ever. Even when reading the absolute worst trash fic with meandering plot and shameless cliches I’ve never thought “omg stop writing, never again, leave it to the experts” no, I thought “for the love of all that is holy learn how to spell and stop calling them orbs.”
Never once did i think a bad writer should stop writing. I just figured they would eventually improve.
This is why I have this. Even if they can get the lock opened they can’t push the door open. Got it at Lowes for $20.
reblog for that last bit to save a life
If you’re like me and have a large gap under your front door (someone could take a stick and just poke the leaning stick style door jam out), I recommend the Addalock. It’s small, perfect for traveling, and this lock is CRAZY. It’s so simple but the door does not move.
You can’t see it from the other side, either. It also cost about $20, and I can’t recommend it enough. Easy to travel with, too! Great for Air BnBs!
That’s why I have these on my doors. They get drilled into the side and once its flipped over the door nothing is getting it open. Not the door being unlocked nothing, I’ve unlocked the door and pulled and pushed as hard as I could and it didn’t budge. When I go on a trip this is what I use and when I’m home I leave it on too. No one is getting in here.
Okay I know that it is necessary for many but what do you do if you need medical attention and you’re not able to open the door from the inside? Can the fire department get through these at least?
Yes. The fire department can and will break down your door if necessary, it’s one of the reasons they have axes; it’s entirely possible for door frames to melt/expand/seize or otherwise become unopenable during a house fire but the door itself can be hacked down. Or the window. In rare cases, the wall. Firefighters don’t fuck around with collateral damage when lives are at stake.
My favorite thing about “Ok Boomer” is that, instead of arguing, the youth unconsiously and collectively decided to literally just verbally wave boomers off and treat them like children who won’t shut up and i think that’s beautiful
A male colleague was making fun of the #metoo movement a few days ago, and many more (I’m one of 5 women in a department of 200 men) joined in. So I raised my voice and said I was glad women were speaking up about sexual harassment and assault and that I hoped that everyone who perpetuated this toxic behavior got taken down.
“Yeah but it’s a trend now, lots of them are just saying it for their 15 minutes of fame.” He then continued to say that he didn’t know anyone who had been harassed or any man who had done it.
I asked him if he had a daughter. He did. I asked him how old she was. She was was 17. I told him I’d bet my rent money that his daughter had experienced sexual harassment.
“That’s impossible.”
“Did you ask her?”
“No.”
“Well then, do it.”
The next day, he came in the office with five bouquets of flowers for all the women in our department, including me. He publicly apologized for making fun of sexual harassment and for making our lives harder by doing so. He said that he simply hadn’t known how widespread it was. Apparently, his daughter deals with it very regularly. She hadn’t told him because of the way he spoke about assault cases that were on the news. She thought he’d think less of her if she’d mention it. It was her idea that he should make a public announcement. He said he felt like a bad father.
I said: “You were. Same goes for everyone who laughed with you. Be better, now you know better. And educate other men that still think the same way you did yesterday. And next time someone tells you about an experience they have, don’t automatically assume that because you haven’t seen it, it’s not true. That kind of willful ignorance is why we still deal with this shit.”
He also offered to pay my rent as that was part of the bet, but I told him I’d rather have him put effort in being a person his daughter and wife could be proud of.
In conversation the other day my mom stopped and asked my dad about what percentage of women he thought had experienced sexual harassment. He said about 20-30% maybe. My mom told him that both of us had been harassed multiple times at work (same goes for both of her sisters) and that she had actually been assaulted by a groper on a public bus. I have never seen anyone’s face go slack so quickly before as he realized that literally every woman in his family had experienced this. And while I’m glad he believed us and has changed his view on that subject I still can’t shake the frustration, the anger, that it required being sat down and spoonfed these incidents that we didn’t particularly wanted to relive. This is something that women have been saying for years, but men just never listen. Not even when they’re forced to sit in mandatory harassment in the workplace training seminars.
this post needs more attention
“15 minutes of fame” who wants to be famous for being that girl who got groped.
That statement is almost definitely borne from a subconscious thought that if you’re groped it’s a compliment
NOT TO MENTION the fact that the prohibition against direct images in Islam was actually the reason for the development of the incredible advances in higher mathematics of the Islamic Golden Age because they were required to create these structures. The Islamic World basically took the ban on images as a “hold my beer” thing and created an entire artistic culture based on mathematics and architecture where art and science fed into and glorified each other, 700 years before the Italian Renaissance.
In conclusion
Those beautiful little cascading crenallated niches aren’t just beautiful but functional as well: they created the most incredible acoustics imaginable. Clap your hands beneath them and the sound carries in rippling echoes. It’s amazing! I’d love to hear what they sound like with someone speaking
high-waisted pants and skirts are just things that sit at most people’s natural waists and we’ve been somehow conned into believing that’s “high” send tweet
